Well this is disappointing, I tried what was suggested by @jpietrzak8 and still getting a grey screen.
I thought maybe it was the TightVnc Viewer on windows that was the issue but I used TigerVNC Viewer and still getting a grey screen.
I did at one point I get an encryption error, I search the googles and came across this article but all this did was make it go black screen.
tightvncserver :0 -geometry 1920x1080 -depth 24 -dpi 96 - This gets me the gray screen
/usr/lib/vino/vino-server - gets me the black screen but I cant run that remotely, I have to run it locally
However at this point I have installed something and it totally changed my desktop and wont boot into the Bodhi desktop anymore, so reinstalling Bodhi. I will try the above once I have it reinstalled
UPDATE: Ok after reinstalling Bodhi its now working....I guess I will mark this solved. Thanks everyone for your assistance in this matter. Weird that I had to reinstall the OS to get it to work.
Just in case anyone else wants to do this, I did some more googling and found this and it works headless:
gsettings set org.gnome.Vino enabled true
gsettings set org.gnome.Vino prompt-enabled false
gsettings set org.gnome.Vino require-encryption false
Its my experience that if you install tmux or screen, you can run this and then spawn a different window without having to log into another ssh session, OR:
But while this does allow you the session I think this also dumps the messages from that server to your remote session.Go to the full post